For a blogger who needs a friend right now…

I’m writing this post to encourage a blogger who feels that LIFE SUCKS and that REGARDLESS of what happens things WILL get better.

~~when i say that I don’t say that b/c someone told me, or bc is SOUNDS like the “right” thing to say. I say things will get better b.c they will!

I am a firm believer that God can and WILL make things better for you. Even when it’s YOUR fault that things are going to hell in a hand basket.

Don’t believe me? well i’mma share a few things with YOU, since you won’t respond to my emails.

~ I was 6 y/o when I became primary babysitter for my sister, so my mom could work. This included leaving kindergarten going to the daycare center picking up my sister, calling a cab, and then going home to feed/change a baby until my mom got home from work. She’s still alive.

~ from 6-11 I watched my step-father beat the living shit our of my mom. And when he wasn’t beating her he beat me for practice. i guess.

~ I was probably 8 or 9, the FIRST time i was molested by a relative.

~ I was maybe 11 when I walked in on my step-father raping a woman in my bed.

~ I was 11 when I was shipped off to live with my other set of grandparents b/c of what i’d seen. I didn’t come back to new orleans until after he was murdered. I was 12

~ I witnessed my a murder when I was 16… witnessed a suicide the same year.

~ I drank ALL the time when I was 16 /17 Mad Dog 20/20 Wild Irish Rose.

I think it’s safe to say that NOBODY BUT GOD carried me through childhood. Right? I escaped after I graduated high school did the college thing for a semester. Came back after a semester b/c my sisters where wildin’ out and my momma couldn’t control them. (I mean, if I was the one who raised them, what did she think). Married Ian.

~ fuked up my credit. say it with me FREE is NOT ALWAYS GOOD lol

~ I was fired from my job, within two WEEKS Ian lost his.

~ hubby had some issues with keeping a job… whew he has changed SOOOO much

~ had both cars repo’d

~ was evicted from our apt

~ filed bankruptcy

~ moved in with my mom and damn near got arrested for beating the shyt out of my sister, who happened to be pregnant at the time.

~ The whole Katrina thing

~ rocky times in the Johnson household. I can laugh now but ummm we went 3 WHOLE months without speaking to each other.

I’m putting myself out here (not that I care what people say/think/feel about me).
I’m doing it because IN SPITE of all that. I’m genuinely happy. I’m not bitter. I not sad or depressed.
It’s not because i’ve been such a good person. Or because I deserved it. Or because someone felt sorry for me and took me under their wing and made it better.

It was and has been the GRACE & MERCY of God that has kept me sane, happy, and healthy.

I may have moments of depression and thrown Pity Parties that would rival ANY Diddy Labor Day bash! lol

But after the party was over… I’d say a prayer and got myself UP and OUT and did something! Be it working a job that had my feet black and blue at the end of the night to humbling myself and asking for HELP.

I am an overcomer. Period

YOU can be an overcomer too. I’m no better than you.

So I hope YOU read this and FEEL where I’m coming from. There’s not much I haven’t experienced 1st hand.

Life should not suck. YOUR situations can suck, people can suck, finances can suck, your past can suck. but life DOES NOT suck.

It’s up to you to choose how you want to live your life.

So go head have you a good ole cry, leave the pills and likka ALONE!!! And go out and LIVE!!!


  1. AMEN and your absolutely right. I have experienced many of the things you listed and I still smile. I get upset and everything too, but I always say This Too Shall Pass. That is why I get frustrated with people sometimes, I shouldn’t but I do, because I know that all the stuff that happened to me and I still get back up and try and work it out. Good post and hopefully your blogger friend hears you and get strength from you.

  2. God is good, ain’t he? I take it one day at a time. Crying and fainting has never proved successful. It just makes a bad situation worse. Stuff is gone happen, and we have to keep pressing on. Shoot, I have got to keep going on, cause ain’t no way my nosey ass is missing out on how this all turns out. Ya feel me?

  3. AMEN!!!! Hope your friend can look past what they are in and see how great things can be. Don’t give up!!!

  4. Such a powerful testimony…hopefully your friend will get gain some strength and courage from you. We all have had trails and tribulations…some more than others, some might be harder than others..but we all are better, stronger, smarter for them.

    You cannot let your past/present circumstances dictate your future.

    God will NEVER leave or forsake you.

  5. wow Girlie you HAVE been through some mess. i hope your friend reads this and has a new and better out look on life cause gurl you ain’t lying!!!

  6. Gurl, you have really been through some stuff…but thank God, you were able to overcome and press on. I hope your friend sees that whatever she’s going through is not the end of the world. We’ve all had trials and tribulations and with God’s grace he let us see that all is not lost. Life is worth living.

  7. Let the congregation say…

    This should definitely make anyone thinking about their life think again (hopefully). Definitely makes me double take mine.

    Thank you for sharing.

  8. GIRL!!! That is some SERIOUS inspiration right there. I’m so happy that you were able to overcome all of that and still remain so positive.

    We’ve all have had our struggles at some point in our lives but I am a firm believer in the power of positive thinking. When you have faith and believe (KNOW) in yourself then you are capable of turning things around. When you piss and moan and feel sorry for yourself, all you get in return is more of the same.

    Life doesn’t suck, it’s what you make of it. Hopefully your friends shakes it off and feels better soon. That’s the only way positive change will come about.

    Thanks so much for sharing.

  9. SO much I can say about this as are stories are very similar…but I will just say Patrice it’s a blessing to have made it through…to continue to grow and to be able share and uplift others.
    Thanks for being the awesome you that u are and opening up in hopes to inspire your friend.
    You know I appreciate u 🙂

  10. man
    his grace is a beautiful thing
    appreciate u putting urself out there like that hon
    this post hit my heart

  11. GURL you better let GOD use you up in here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I thank Him all the time that we do not look like what we have been thru!! We ALL have stories to tell!!!

    LOL @ rival ANY Diddy Labor Day bash!

    I throw those from time to time too!!

    Gurl and you just encouraged me about my finances!!
    If you can do it I know I can too!!!

    No seriously, thank you again for letting GOD use you in your e-testimony!!

  12. umh, your testimony is touching. No condition is ever permanent and God has a way of always scooping us in his hands at the right time, even when we were the ones trying to jump ship the whole time.

    Thank you for sharing this. Be blessed.

  13. Wonderful Post.

    There is a local church here that has a quote on their board saying ” If God brings you to it, he will bring you through it”. I am a firm believer in that.

    Hope things get better for your friend.

  14. Whoa… that is powerful… and I hope the blogger gets the message that he/she can overcome!

    You are an amazing person to share this…


    I know one thing, even if your friend wasn’t encouraged by your words, I’m sure that plenty of other folk [MYSELF INCLUDED] were.

    You are truly blessed to have kept pushing forward despite all that you’ve been through. 🙂

    This was a wonderful post by the way!

  16. You know, Patrice, this is so heartfelt, so real and so true that I am truly, really speechless.

    You’re an overcomer and an inspiration to us all.

    I knew there was a reason why I liked you so much.

  17. You are so right!!We were not promised that life would be a rose garden all the time!We have to just get back up and live!!!!

  18. Thank you! Its taken me a minute to realize that yes, everything WILL be okay. Just not in MY timing.

  19. hey mami, i totally feel you

    its by the grace of God that I have come from all the shyss that I have been through

    but you know what I have learned that you can give someone so much advice but if they dont believe in God or have that spiritual connection then they are not gonna get it

    so I thank you for sharing

    i know my blog has been that blog where i let is all hang out, i know you came late to the old one but I have put some shyss on their about my life!!!

    so mami i hope your freind gets to feeling better and she/he gets on them knee’s and start praying!!

  20. Preach sista, PREACH! I thank you so much for sharing…really… I NEEDED to hear your message today… I draw strength and inspiration from words.

    -God bless.

  21. Patrice – if you didnt touch the one you were aiming for…you touched so many more! Words do have power and girl you have just empowered a whole bunch of us! Thank you for sharing your heart so freely.

  22. Wow girl wow. You have been through it and I am so glad to see that you have made it through! (big hug!)

    I hope your friend realizes that every thing will be ok. It is up to them to determine the outcome!

    Be blessed everyone.

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