One of my clients came in to do his application for food stamps. When he sat down he said he had a name change. He produced court papers, new id, social security card. When I saw his date of birth and noticed he was the same age as me (28), so I asked him What made him change his name.
He went on to say he changed it b/c of some family abuse. I said ok and turned to keep working. But he continued talking. He said, “my brother tried to shoot me.” – looked up in shock. “He tried to shoot me because I am gay. So if they can’t accept me for who I am, then I don’t want to be a part of the family. So I changed my name, and I hope to never see them again.”
I have a problem with this, not just when it comes to this guys situation. Just in general. I am bothered at the lack of respect for person. It bothers me to see someone being treated unfairly b/c of their lifestyle, gender, race, etc.
I take issue when closed minded people condemn whole groups of people b/c it doesn’t fit into their idea of what’s right. Where is the compassion? Where is the tolerance?
People go through life trying to fit certain labels. Stay in the box, don’t trouble the water, bc they are scared of what their family, friends, neighbors, employers will think of them or scared that they may be treated unfairly or abused.
That’s no way to live.
What if you were condemned, blacklisted, mocked, for everything you did/said/thought that doesn’t line up with what has been deemed the social norm?
What if your deep dark secrets became public knowledge? Wouldn’t you want people to still love you, respect you.
When did we as a people, miss out on the life lesson of compassion? Or just general respect?
We all should have learned at SOME point in life that you don’t have to agree with everything a person does to give them respect.
At the end of the day, when you strip away all the labels, knock down the box walls, we are all human. We’re not catholic, baptist, christian, atheist. We’re not gay, straight, bi or tri sexual. We’re not black, wht, indian, asian. We are all humans.
We all need to practice being a bit more tolerant of those who are different we are.
And on that note, we all need to practice being an individual. Stop wearing the labels society has prescribed for you.
Do you! Do what makes you happy!
Be an individual!
Think for yourself!
Get so caught up in who you are, and what your doing, that you don’t have time to worry about how someone is choicing to live out their life.
Tolerance people. Basic respect.
And I’m off my soapbox