One month

My mom has been dead for one month today. All day i ve been trying to focus on the good times and remember the things that made her her. Right now I can remember them easily. With hardly any effort. All I have now are memories. But what happens when they start to fade. And I can no longer recall the way she sounded when she laughed. Or the way her hair felt in my hands?

July 1st is usually a happy day for me. Its the day I start celebrating my birth. Tosay not so much. All I can think about is how much I miss her.

Momma I love you


  1. The truth is Patrice you will never forget, there will always be something that will trigger a memory of her. You will be amazed that even something as simple as the smell of something will conjure up a memory of your time with her.

    You hold her in your heart she will never be forgotten so don’t worry about that. You are a very good painter try painting a portrait of her. Or even plant a tree or some flowers in her honor.

    I hope each day brings you a little more peace. May God continue to bless you.

  2. I just happened upon your blog today while browsing another creative soul!

    As long as your heart beats, your mom is with you. You are a part of her that lives on.

    My god son, Devin, was killed in 2006, his mom gave me one of the many plants she received. I still have it, mind you I’m no green thumb, LOL. I talk to that plant all the time and call it “Devin” I know he lives on in our hearts and minds. So does your mom.

    So planting a tree is a great idea!

    Praying for your strength during this difficult time!

    God bless

  3. Patrice, on July 9th, my mom will be dead for 8 years. You never forget. I too thought as you do now and then, when Katrina came and wiped the house out, I thought every memory that each wall held would be gone when I gutted. But you know what, they never leave. Just yesterday something happened in my life and I wanted to ask her and I had to actually remind myself that she’s gone.
    It’s going to take some time but, the memories you hold now will be the same ones to comfort you later.
    Stay strong.

  4. I’m sending you some cyberhugs {{{{HUGS}}}}. It’s hard but things do get better. You’ll remember more and more as you adjust in your grieving.

    I must give you a call soon.

    Take care of yourself.

  5. Just think about all the great times you all had together. The memory of her will live on forever. It’s hurts in the beginning, but through time it will get better.

  6. Patrice, My Mom has been gone for 14 years, I still miss her, everyday. It gets easier and you will never forget her. You learn to live with it, one day at a time. Much Love to you!

  7. I can never imagine what you are going through because both of my parents are alive. But I do have to say my mother and I, have never had a (“Mother – Daughter Relationship”) not one that was loving, I mean. She was all business me MOTHER you NOT kind of thing. I feel a loss as well but nothing like what you are experiencing. You have fond loving memories. I pray it will get easier for both of us.

  8. Hwy girl, I am so sorry that you are in this valley right now. Though I have not lost my mom, I have lost a child. Its been a few years, but I remember his tiny little feet, his tiny little hands and his little head that looked just like my husbands. I promise you, you will not forget much and what you do forget, others will remember and remind you.

    Hang in there lady and I will send up a prayer for you.

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