Dope Dad

This past Sunday we celebrated the dopeness that is my husband. Ian has consistently proven his dedication to our family over the 20 years that we have been together. I have learned that I can depend on him to be there during the best of times as well as the worst. My boys look up to him, trust him and admire him. Ian is the super hero in our family. He is the father he never had.

Life · Travel

What I made for the Anita Baker Farewell Concert!

I went to see Anita Baker with one of my oldest good-est best friends! Which of course means I had to make something cute to wear. So I made the ever popular Mccall’s 7757 view A and E.


Then because the pants are so comfortable I made view e again in a different print and paired it with a crop top  from Simplicity 8609! I had to do major surgery on this top though because the finished measurements were 6″ smaller than my bust size.


The sleeve seam detail was perfect and the pattern went together easily after a full bust adjustment.


Here I am the day of the concert dressed and ready to go! Getting my obligatory mirror selfie in for the ‘gram. I headed downstairs to meet my friend and that’s when I realized—this outfit is not going to work for this day.


RAIN and cool temps were in the forecast until 10pm.

So first, I tried to just switch out my pants and shoes and add a cardigan



That didn’t last long. Because it was too cool and the cardigan i was wearing was too thin and it just wasn’t working. But it’s Anita! So onto plan c.

Old Navy provided me with a water resistant jacket and a cute sweatshirt that literally spoke some positivity and sunshine into the dreary rainy day.

And dammit we went back to the festival grounds dressed appropriately for the weather, armed with out stadium chairs and umbrellas and camped out in the rain waiting on ANITA BAKER!


While we waited we saw Tevin Campbell, Brandi, Damian Escobar, a tribute to Phyllis Hyman performed by various artist including THE Rachelle Farrell and Regina Bell, Bob James and then the rain stopped, TEN MINUTES BEFORE the QUEEN hit the stage and SANG her face off!



We sang and danced along with along  with Anita until the show was over and we had to go home.  Great trip with a great friend!




How I flew to the DMV for $11.20

A few years ago I got hip to the credit card miles and points game and now can use my points for at least 2 round- trip flights per year. For a family of 4 this is a big deal! Typically, we use our miles for our bigger vacations (spring and Christmas) to cover the cost of at least one of our round-trip flights. However, in this time I flew solo to catch Anita Baker on her Farewell tour.

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So how do we accumulate points?

We use our credit card for all our travel and miscellaneous purchases. My Southwest card gives you 2 points for every travel related purchase and 1 point for all others. Southwest also adds points to your account on every anniversary.

Now, I will say that we fly Frontier Airlines a lot! From our city we can get to the Orlando area, Vegas, Los Angeles for less than $400 for all 4 of us. We still earn points on those flights on our southwest rapid rewards account. Which we use for destinations that Frontier doesn’t serve.


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We also have a Capital One credit card that gives you points that you can redeem for gift cards, flights, hotels or cash back in the form of a check or bill credit. This card we typically use while on vacation and apply the points to our statement credit to offset some of our spending.

We could earn a lot more rapid reward points if we switched and began to pay all our monthly bills using the card. However, that is still just outside of my comfort level. Maybe one day!

As someone who once struggled to the point of bankruptcy with poor spending habits, I advise you to monitor your credit card spending carefully. It doesn’t take long to rack up debt, which defeats the purpose of points and credit card rewards. With that said, monitor your spending. Don’t buy more than you can pay off in a billing cycle. If you do have to carry a balance on your credit card, try to keep it under 30%. Let me add — I am only sharing what has worked for me.

Sewing | DIY | Crafts

I designed for a fashion show!

A few weeks back I was asked to make a dress for a curvy girl who would be participating in a fashion show. I was excited until I realized I only had about 10 days total. Because of the short time frame, I opted to shop for fabric at Joanns. I figured I could physically see and feel the fabric and would have to take a chance on fabric purchases online that may not look the same in person.

So the first couple nights of work (I still had to work my full time job) I drafted a sheath dress pattern based off her measurements (51, 47, 50.5). Made a train using a circle skirt pattern. And made a muslin. The muslin fitting went great then it was time to cut into the fabric. Assembly was easy and I finished fairly quickly.

Only problem, I HATED the finished dress. It was cute in a summer picnic kind of way and not a fashion show worthy way.

So the Wednesday before the fashion show, I ordered fabric online from amazon. Thank God for amazon prime because it save my whole life!

The fabric arrived Friday and u sewed my ass off to make sure her dress was finished for the fashion show on Sunday.

My only regret was not finishing sooner so she’d have more time to practice walking in the gown.

This was definitely a make it work occasion. My girl looked great in the gown and fashion was for an honorable cause. It was a great experience and I proved to myself that I can rise to the occasion when challenges arise.


travel update/Questions

Here’s an oldie but goodie. A post I made back in 2008 while traveling for my grandfather’s funeral services.